Your history doesn’t have to be your future when managing diabetes

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Here’s my Thursday d-lesson – a little reminder that no matter what we’ve been doing, we can do a little better today if we decide to do so.

My kangaroos, by the way, were inspired by the year I lived in Sydney, Australia. Here’s today’s excerpt from my inspirational D-book,

“The ABCs Of Loving Yourself With Diabetes.”


Whether you’ve spent years ignoring your doctor’s advice, or even avoiding your doctor, today you can decide to be the master of your diabetes. How? Begin by shifting your thinking.

If you’ve been seeing your diabetes care as something you “have” to do, see it as something you “choose” to do. You’ll feel more in control. 

Then see the benefit of doing the task. For instance, “By testing my blood sugar, I can keep it in target range and reduce my risk of complications.” Focusing on the benefit helps remind you why the task is important.

The truth is everything we do in life is a choice. Changing your mindset from “have to” to “choose to” gives you more energy. With all there is to be gained, isn’t it time you hopped to it?

Reflection: Right now list on a post it note 3 diabetes tasks you perform and how they benefit you. Keep this somewhere you’ll see often. 

Be brave with your life so that others can be brave with theirs

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I make no New Year’s resolutions because I know it’s just wishing on fairy dust: what I intend to do I will and what’s not that important to me I likely won’t. So, why set myself up for failure and disappointment?

But what I do want to do in 2013 is be a little more conscious of two practices I employ. The first is to be kind to everyone, in every interaction. For sure it’s not always easy, but I know even when someone is caught up in negative emotions – anger, frustration, jealousy, whatever – if I’m kind, their mood shifts from dark to light and they are more likely to greet the next person they interact with with kindness.

Second is the quote above I read some time ago, “Be brave with your life so that others can be brave with theirs.” I’ve forgotten where I read it, although I do know it was written by a woman named Katherine Center. 

I think in some ways this is a life lesson for me. For me it means go after your dreams, dare to be successful, be true to yourself, reach to be your best, brightest self. Even if that means you stand out. For someone who grew up shy, that’s a tall order.

But I’ve realized not a selfish one, as you might first think, but an unselfish one. The more we shine, provided we do it not from arrogance, but authenticity, striving to be our best self, the more we inspire others to shine, be brave, dare to go after their dreams. 

The photo above signifies this for me. I took it last week on my morning walk. The single tree in bloom, reaching ever upward, reminds me of this quote. Stand tall, let your gifts shine and those around you will be moved to do the same. 

These are the two things I’ll be practicing this year.

This Valentine’s Day raise your love quotient!

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Funny, today as I did yesterday just by coincidence, I’m going to redirect you to my friend Amy Tenderich’s blog, DiabetesMine, for a guest post she asked me to write. It’s called“Loving Yourself with Diabetes.” 

It’s a bit about me, and likely a few things you don’t know. There’s also  a tip for upping your self-love quotient. I think you’ll like it. 

While we can’t guarantee anyone else is going to shower us with a dozen long stemmed red roses, we can and should, make sure we shower ourselves with love – especially on Valentine’s Day!


A crowded corner in diabetes-land, Lonelyville

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I live very near a coffee shop called, “Lonelyville.” I pass it on my morning walk. I always think what an odd name it is for a coffee shop. After all, the people sitting there chatting in groups of two and three and the ones on their own bent over their laptops are all there precisely to leave their lonely selves out the door, and feel unalone. 

When diabetes patients are surveyed about the challenges of living with diabetes, loneliness is always at or near the top of the list. Living with chronic illness is a lonely affair, whereas short term illness not so much. For instance, break your arm and it will mend in a few weeks or months: You know the experience will end. That allows you to get lost in, and commune about, your poor arm: “Hey there, buddy, what happened to you?” people ask and you get to tell your tale of woe or anecdote. You can show off your cast, people sign it with endearments, and you complain about how itchy your arm is and people commiserate, “Oh, poor baby.” And even if you feel lonely for a while, it will end and your arm will mend.

Diabetes doesn’t end. And for most of us there’s no outward appearance of it, nor how hard you work at managing it. I was out to dinner this week two nights in a row. The first night my husband and I were meeting an acquaintance of his and his new girlfriend. When the conversation turned to my work, she said brightly, “My brother in law has diabetes!” Deducing he had type 1 and had gotten it recently, I asked, “How’s he doing?” She said, “He’s doing really great.” Her enthusiasm let me know that she really had no idea what he’s living with. My husband must have felt similarly for he began to tell them what my typical day looks like: Pricking my finger up to ten times a day, calculating carbs at each meal, constant injections, all the daily planning and organization and on and on, and on. Their eyes widened just getting this small insight. And, I thought listening to my guy, Wow, look at how much I do in addition to my “normal” life! Yet I can’t allow myself to think of it as more than “normal life” or it would be too overwhelming, or make me feel sorry for myself, and that would impede my every effort. 

The next night we dined with a friend and met her beau. When she and I both took out our Apidra to shoot up for dinner, hers was in a pen and mine in a vial. The beau looked mystified and asked about the difference. A little more conversation told me he didn’t know much at all about managing diabetes. Whether my friend chooses not to share much with him or he’s not that interested, I don’t know, but I wondered, isn’t that a lonely place for her?  

At some level diabetes just is a lonely place some of the time. I’m sure this is true of any long-term illness or grief experience. But I’m not drawing any comparisons here, only remarking on an essential reality of living with diabetes. And, even though I work in diabetes, know a multitude of patients and diabetes educators, have an unimaginably supportive husband, diabetesjust is often a lonely affair. My loneliness lessens in those moments when I talk with my friends who have diabetes because diabetes is always part of our conversation, even when it’s just sitting there beside us unspoken.

So really, all those blog posts that went out from the diabetes bloggers at the Roche social summit after we returned (a few posts ago), all those shouts while we were on site of, “Gosh, it’s so great to finally meet you!” or “We ought to do this on a regular basis!” or “I couldn’t wait to get here!” All the uncontained joy and bonding and merely sharing the same air and recognizing this complex dance we do every day with all its machinations and emotions, well, it was all about for a few moments not feeling so alone.